It might seem odd to think about it, but the job search can be a lot like dating.
When contemplating the beginning of any important relationship in life, if you view yourself as a candidate for an elite position – either in someone’s heart or in someone’s business – you’ll come across better and be more successful in the attempt.
Here are six key ways to view the job search like dating, and to make a better go of it as a result.
- Do the inner work first: The most successful people are those who are good at and enjoy what they do. If you take the time to figure out what you are really good at and what really matters to you (the Centered Career Self-Awareness Workbook is a great place to start) then you’ll be able to focus on jobs and workplaces that will be a good fit for you, rather than find yourself job-hopping through a lot of trial and error.
- Put your best foot forward: It goes without saying that you want to show up to new relationships of any kind (and keep showing up over the years) as polite and well-groomed. This means dressing professionally and being respectful to everyone with whom you interact during your interview process. Just as you’d be nice to a new friend’s relatives, so should you be agreeable to everyone you meet within an organization.
- Focus on the other party: You’ll never impress a date if you bang on about yourself all night, and you’ll put an interviewer off if you talk only about yourself as well. Show an understanding of the organization and the people with whom you’re interacting by doing your research on them – read about them on LinkedIn. Read the company’s web site, its annual report, its marketing materials. Customize your application materials and get all of the names right. Follow the organization and its stars on social media, and like, comment, or share when they make news. Your genuine and focused attention on another is always helpful in building any relationship.
- Follow the 80% rule: Nobody and no team is perfect. Look for a position and a team that’s a solid 80% fit for you, following what you know about yourself from your thorough self-awareness inventory. Don’t compromise on what really matters, but choose your battles and accept that there will be thorns with every rose.
- Be responsive: You show passion and commitment to an organization when you apply for a position as soon as it is posted, just as you show someone you care by responding to their correspondence. Do not wait until the deadline to submit your application. You should apply with a customized resume and cover letter within several hours of finding out about an opportunity. Contact me if you’d like to learn more.
- Follow up gracefully: Be sure to send a personalized thank you note within 24 hours, but don’t overwhelm folks with numerous check-ins. There’s a fine art to following up, and remember – the initial follow-up is still part of your chance to make a first impression.
What do you think? How have you approached your career search, and has it worked for you?
I’m interested in your experience and your thoughts.
